I wish I had known about Holden’s autism earlier. Not so much for early intervention, but just so I could have been a more understanding parent. I’m sure most parents feel like they don’t know what’s going on with their kid, but for me it was one of the most pervasive feelings. It explains a lot of things:
I speak in past-tense because now that I know more about ASD I am becoming a much better parent. Understanding Holden has brought so much clarity into our lives. I used to be so embarrassed when Holden would tell someone who just came to our house to leave. Actually, he didn’t understand leave so he would say “STAY HERE! STAY HERE!” meaning “go away” and people probably thought he was so rude and we were rude for having a rude boy. But now we just try to prepare him for when people (we know of) come to the house and he handles it fine (usually). I’m reading Thinking In Pictures
right now and am learning so much. Temple Grandin is amazing.
Holden is such a bright, beautiful boy. I love him so much and am thankful to be ever-learning more about him and how to be a better mom to him. It has taken me a while to get here, but I’m ok with him being autistic. At first I was shocked, then angry, then really sad. But I am ok with now. I don’t want to train the autism out of him. I absolutely adore that boy and I believe he – like me and everyone else – has a purpose here and it’s my job to help him fulfill his mission. It’s just my job to see that he gets all the resources and help he needs to be as healthy, happy and high-functioning in this crazy world as possible. And I’m learning a lot on the way.